Man Attempts Abduction

by | Aug 20, 2021

The following story is from the mother & retired teacher who used to offer our SAFE International high school violence prevention and self-defence program to her students. When she and her daughter heard of our upcoming release of “The Parental SAFEGUARD Plan…To Achieving Peace of Mind”, they gave me their blessing to share this story. Once you read this story, it will be obvious why they see the importance of this training for all teens, particularly those leaving home for college or university.
My daughter took your program when she was a grade 9 student many years ago. Five years later, after graduating from high school, she and a friend were in Ottawa, ON, for a day of shopping. At approximately 3 pm they were headed back to their vehicle in the parking lot of a shopping mall.
A man, hiding behind a pillar, surprised the girls, and with a knife in his hand, he demanded the girls get into the van, threatening to harm them if they made a sound. My daughter ran and got into the driver’s seat of the van and began yelling and honking the horn while her friend was on the other side of the man with the guy holding the knife.
The man, out of fear of being caught, fled. We quickly decided to report the incident to the police. The girls offered independent descriptions of the attacker. The police said the description was very similar to an attack occurring soon after this. He approached another woman at a different mall who was putting her baby in the backseat of her car. As she was putting her baby in the backseat, he attempted to force her into the car.
A couple of onlookers saw the situation, chased him, caught him, and restrained him until the police arrived.
The police also informed us the man had recently been released from prison for assaults previously committed.
Our daughter told us that even though she had not taken your course in over four years, she still remembered your advice to yell and attract attention. She knew it was her first and better option than trying to defend against a knife. In addition, one interesting comment was she said your use of humour in teaching the girls was the key to her ability to remember what to do.
Thanks – J O’Brien
Chris Roberts – I share this story as it illustrates that the key to violence prevention begins before it ever gets physical. In a story like this, if the man had been able to kidnap the girls and take them to a secondary location, the results may have been much more tragic.
Some situations may require a physical defence, but recognizing and avoiding violence should always be prioritized in any credible self-defence and violence prevention program.
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In this self-defense video clip Richard Dimitri with the aid of Chris Roberts, founder of SAFE International discusses and demonstrates how to deal with being Pinned to the Ground.  Richard first points out the most vulnerable targets on the human body.  Self-defense targets that will debilitate an individual regardless of their size, strength, or if they are under the influence of any substances.  While there are no guarantees anything will be effective, striking the targets of the eyes and throat give you the highest chance of surviving.  Critical to mention that when one needs self-defense that their force must parallel the danger in the eyes of the law.  This video is for solely meant for educational and informational purposes..  One must educate themselves on the self-defense laws in their country.  

The Eyes – if a person can’t see, they are still dangerous, but will struggle to locate you if you are at a distance.  As Richard says, you may play Marco Polo with them, but not recommended lol!

The Throat – is a target one may target in a life and death scenario.  It is not a self-defense strike to use in a low level threat scenario.  The result of a throat strike could cause death.  Again, critical to understand the laws where you live.

Far too often, self-defense instructors teach to strike first, and ask questions later, but this is not an ethical, moral, or legal response to violence. High level self-defense strikes as stated in the video are for the worst-case scenarios. One should only utilize a high-level reaction like this if attempts to avoid, escape, or verbally defused have failed leaving only the option of self-defense.

Outside of the eyes and throat, the rest of the body contains secondary targets you may strike if you can’t reach the eyes or throat. In a worst-case scenario, you aim for those most vulnerable targets, but attacking the secondary targets may provide you the opportunity to access the primary targets. One may use ripping, tearing, clawing, biting, spitting, anything that either damages or creates distraction to get back to the primary targets.

Being pinned to the ground with both arms restrained is a common method adopted to control the victim. It is particularly common in a sexual assault scenario and applied to control and intimidate the victim. The attacker may seek for an opportunity to strike or remove clothing to continue their assault. While possible, the attacker may attempt a headbutt, but that is not likely their intention. To continue struggling against someone who is most likely bigger and stronger is futile and wastes a lot of valuable energy. And struggling may encourage the attacker to strike sooner, to stop you from struggling.

If the person removes their pin of an arm to strike, it is vital you strike back instantly and directly. If they release a hand to throw a punch, there may be a split-second when they pull back to strike you. This provides a small opportunity, but your reaction must be direct and without hesitation to put them on the defensive. Any pause in your defense will narrow your chances of survival.


Having education in grappling arts can help you in how to move on the ground, but understand the distinction between grappling and self-defense.  With little to no experience with violence, to think you can pull off armbars and other complicated grappling defenses is dangerous.  Many self-defense instructors teach all you need is leverage.  That advice is bullshit.  Leverage has its limits against someone who is bigger and stronger.  And remember, you are not defending against a “move”.  You are defending against the intention behind the attack. If their intention is rape, murder, jealousy, rage, etc that is much more difficult to defend against than any singular attack as you see on YouTube self-defense videos that show no realism in relation to violence.

Back to having your arms pinned.  The aggressor on top may say things that are disgusting and offensive.  They may lick or kiss the person with sexual assault, but while it may humiliate, it does not hurt.  Using conflict resolution skills here may be effective to lower the guard of the attacker.  Telling them what you can do for them as a strategy may cause them to relax their aggression or build a false sense of confidence dropping their guard.  Telling them what you can do for them is not compliance, but a strategy that may be used if you know they hope to rape you.  Psychology is often your best chance here.  If used, it may open up your defense. 

With being choked on the ground, while it is an a dangerous, frightening attack, both hands may be free in which case there is no time verbal talk.  you attack vulnerable targets as mentioned.


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