Do You Really Know Your Neighbors
You Don’t Know What The Other Person is Capable of!
Just Google “Neighbors Fighting Neighbors,” and there is a plethora of stories, and one common theme throughout most of them is how seemingly stupid the reasons for the conflict are.
“Man Charged With Killing Over Leaf Blower”
In my book DISARM DAILY CONFLICT – Your Life Depends On It, I emphasize the importance of recognizing that you can never be sure what the person you are in conflict with is capable of. Do you know their mental state, history of conflict and violence, and overall character? Most people will not share these things with their neighbours; if they do, it may be used to intimidate, but never brush it off as insignificant talk.
“Jeffrey Spaide, 47, shot dead his neighbors, Goy, 50, and his wife, Lisa, 48, after arguing about shovelling snow onto each other’s property.”
Many people mistakenly assume that because they would never go to the extreme of murdering a neighbour over a minor dispute, they fail to see or ignore the warning signs and continue to fuel the argument. This mistake can be dangerous, as seemingly insignificant conflicts can instantly change lives.
“a 59-year-old man from Florida brutally bludgeoned his roommate to death with a sledgehammer in 2006 after an argument over toilet paper.”
The biggest lesson I might offer is to control yourself because one person in control dramatically lowers the chances of violence when two people are out of control.